Uncontested Divorce:
Because Breaking Up Shouldn't Break the Bank!

Bates Family Law has streamlined the Uncontested Divorce process, offering divorcing couples in the Rochester area our most efficient and economical solution.

Divorce Mediation in Rochester

Through divorce mediation, couples in the Rochester area can negotiate their own agreement and, in the process, develop the necessary tools for resolving future differences. Conflict can result in the productive airing of differences and can lead to creative solutions that address the changing needs of all family members.

What does Divorce Mediation entail in Rochester?

Mediation is a family-centered process in which an impartial third party meets with a couple in conflict to help them reach a mutual and informed agreement for the terms of their separation, divorce, or family dispute in the Rochester area. Mediation acknowledges that these disputes have two main elements to address: the emotional one as well as the legal one. It therefore provides a safe setting for parties to communicate their needs and interests with each other while focusing on principled problem solving such as fairness, self-determination, and the best interests of all family members.

How is Divorce Mediation Different from a Traditional Divorce or Family Court Dispute?

In a traditional divorce parties rely on attorneys to help define their needs and expectations based on the attorney’s understanding and application of the law. Even without going to trial, the traditional Rochester divorce process is often inherently adversarial with both parties assuming positions and strategies advocated by their attorneys. Divorce mediation is an informal process in which the parties themselves are in control and empowered to make their own decisions. Divorce mediation seeks to reduce the tension and trauma of these conflicts, not increase it. This enables couples to achieve a sense of wholeness after the emotional and financial chaos of terminating their marriage or settling their custody/support matters. Divorce mediation does not require each spouse to view the other as an adversary. Instead, the Rochester based divorce mediator helps the couple work together to find the best way of resolving their disputes. Hostile feelings are reduced so that individuals can better adjust to the separation or divorce and plan for the future.


  • Promotes communication and cooperation.
  • Allows the parties to retain control over the decisions that affect their lives.
  • Provides opportunity to define and address all the particular interests and needs of everyone involved.
  • Helps the children win as well, as they see their parents working together for their interests and future.
  • More affordable than litigation.
  • Faster than litigation, enabling couples to sooner move ahead with their own lives.
  • Focuses on the future.
  • Explores creative options independent of legal parameters.
  • Research shows that compliance and satisfaction with mediated agreements is higher than when terms are imposed by a court, resulting in less post-divorce litigation.

If We Can’t Communicate, Can We Mediate?

Yes. This is exactly the place for a divorce mediator. Through mediation, parties are encouraged to avoid past patterns and “getting stuck” in what went wrong in the past. Instead parties focus on what they want in the future, for themselves, and their children. Mediators help couples shift into new and productive way of communicating and problem solving, even while they are working towards their divorce.

What is the Time and Cost?

Moderate fees are based on hourly rates and payable after each session. There is no up-front retainer. Divorce mediation is faster than litigation and because both parties pay one mediator instead of two attorneys, the total cost will be substantially less than hiring separate attorneys in an adversarial process. A typical comprehensive mediated divorce takes 3-4 sessions in the Rochester area, whereas a litigated divorce may take years.

Will I Need an Attorney?

Attorneys can help their clients understand the law and make informed decisions. It is recommended that at some point before the final mediation agreement is signed, each party consults an independent attorney to review the mediated agreement.

How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

After a discussion to understand the divorce mediation process, the couple, with the help of the divorce mediator, begins by discussing each spouse’s concerns and interests. They gather any necessary information and determine criteria for making decisions. Step by step, the couple, having a chance to be fully heard, and to listen to each other, decides on the type of agreement they seek. The goal is to find a “win-win” result; a comprehensive settlement that is good for both parties and their children.

Matters Typically Decided in Mediation Include:

  • Parenting Arrangements
  • Child Support
  • Property Distribution
  • Debt Allocation
  • Spousal Maintenance (Alimony)
  • Tax Considerations

Sounds good in theory, but still have doubts?

Understandable. This is likely the first time you are going through a separation or divorce and it is understandable that an alternative other than the traditional adversarial process makes you uneasy. But consider this analogy: If you had a back problem or another physical ailment, would surgery be your first option? I hope not, especially if a different form of treatment is available claiming to offer all the same benefits of a full cure and recovery without any of the significant risks of surgery. At the very least, you would seek a second opinion. There is a way of resolving disputes, getting separated, or divorced without risking the loss of an amicable co-parenting relationship and/or the ability to have a positive co-parenting plan, not to mention losing an arm and a leg in professional fees. Divorce mediation offers a better alternative of treatment. Considering that 99% of all divorce cases settle before going to trial in Rochester and since mediation is voluntary and confidential, there is little to no risk in seeing if it will work for you.

Call Bates Family Law today at (585) 433-4661 to speak directly with our divorce mediator or to schedule your free consultation.

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When it comes to your divorce or family law case, experience matters. We have represented thousands of clients in matters of divorce, child custody, and child support.

Uncontested Divorce

Uncontested Divorce in Rochester

Many people do not realize that New York is a no-fault divorce state. It is no longer necessary or even common to get a legal separation before getting divorced in Rochester. An uncontested divorce is the fastest and most budget-friendly path to marital dissolution. Often, an uncontested divorce can be settled with only one party retaining a lawyer.

Contested Divorce

Contested Divorce in Rochester

When an uncontested divorce is not possible, you will want a Rochester based family court lawyer with extensive trial experience. When you are considering hiring a family court lawyer, it is important to ask about the number of divorce trials they have handled in the Rochester area.

Divorce for Business Owners & Spouses

Divorce for Rochester Business Owners or Their Spouses

If you or your spouse own a business in Rochester, it’s crucial to hire a divorce attorney who has comprehensive experience handling business assets. Not all divorce attorneys understand business valuations or the tax consequences of businesses. The special considerations of Rochester based business owners require special knowledge from your lawyer.

Uncontested Divorce


Have you tried to work through the issues with your spouse and keep "getting stuck" in the same pattern? Our mediator helps couples shift into a new and productive way of communicating and problem solving, even while they are working towards their divorce. This family-centered process, in which the parties themselves are in control and empowered to make their own decisions, seeks to reduce the tension and trauma of divorce, not increase it. This enables couples in the Rochester area to achieve a sense of wholeness by working together through the current issues and develop the necessary tools for resolving future differences.

Divorce for Business Owners & Spouses

Personal Property Mediation in Rochester

When faced with many decisions during your divorce, it is the big ones that get the most attention…and rightfully so. Parenting time, support, your home, and retirement accounts are always at the forefront of the discussion. With so much focus on these decisions, often your personal property is nothing more than an afterthought. Personal property typically includes all the items in your home, garage, and barn, such as furniture, electronics, and kitchenware. This is usually hundreds of items, and many attorneys cannot dedicate the time necessary to help their clients determine the value and division of all  these items and, honestly, do you really want to pay an attorney in Rochester  to do that?

Child Custody

Child Custody in Rochester

Nothing is more important than your children. If you are facing parental alienation or your children are being coached, a child custody battle can be especially difficult. We have expertly conducted countless child custody trials in Rochester, including initial determinations of the best interests of the children, modifications to prior orders, enforcement proceedings, and cases of parental alienation.

Child Support

Child Support in Rochester

Child support is much more complicated than a basic formula or a certain percentage of income. There are multiple considerations that go into calculating child support, especially if you or the other parent works in a cash business, is underemployed, or if you share equal time with the child. We are experienced in every aspect of determining child support in Rochester. If child support is already established, we can even determine, often in a phone call, whether the amount you are currently paying or receiving is fair.

Order of Protection

Orders of Protection in Rochester

If you have been served with a Family Court Order of Protection or if you feel that you need an Order of Protection to keep you or your children safe, you must act fast. An Order of Protection against you can impact your job, your ability to see your children, your right to live in your home, and your right to possess firearms. If a temporary Order of Protection was issued against you without you being present, you have a right to have the Order of Protection reevaluated right away. If you are seeking an Order of Protection, we will help you apply for the order, most often within 24 hours.

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